28. Houston. Unashamedly nerdy. I write stuff. This blog is apparently 40% the untamed, 40% yuzuru hanyu, and 20% dnd shitposts. If that floats your boat then you’re welcome I guess
So I (16, M) am betrothed to a girl (16, F) I don’t really like but my mom and her mom made the arrangement before we were born and neither of our dads (or us) get much say in this because our moms are scary.
Anyway, I really don’t like this girl. She’s just average and the only reason we’re supposed to marry is because our moms are sworn sisters and we’re from powerful, noble families. Not to brag, but I’m exceptionally good-looking and highly skilled, and I don’t think a girl so meek and ordinary would be fit for me at all.
I don’t see the point of hiding my disdain for her. Anyone with a good pair of eyes can see how different I am from her and there is no point in me pretending I feel any different about her.
To preface, I don’t think I’m the asshole and I want to prove I’m not the only one who thinks that.
Onto the story:
Some friends were talking about pretty girls and such, and since I don’t necessarily care for those discussions, I kept silent. One of them then mentioned I am not saying anything because I am already in love with my forced fiancee and see no other girls as interesting.
I simply responded like I did above: that I find her unappealing and she’s not at all my type. Which prompted her almost-brother (long story, but the guy isn’t even adopted in the family, just hangs out around them and somehow ended up as head disciple) to punch me in the face. Hard.
I am not weak at all but the hit took me by surprise and led to me walking around with a swollen face for several days. The guy got punished but not without him and my fiancee’s actual brother both calling me an asshole.
Could you all convince them I am NTA once and for all?
Edit 1: To update you all, I actually did marry my fiancee (not resulting from the arranged marriage, it was annuled and then we ended up falling in love on our own) and she’s an amazing, kind and beautiful person with whom I am going to have a son in a few months.
I was an arrogant, annoying, entitled, incel-esque piece of shit two years ago but thankfully, I got better and am on the way of becoming a decent person and hopefully a good father!!
I love my wife very much and I regret I didn’t treat her right from the start, but I now have the rest of my life to make it up to her although I know she has already forgiven me anyway.
Growth is a wonderful thing and I think everyone should embrace it. I used to really hate my life and resent my parents for the environment they have raised me in as an arranged marriage couple that was never really happy. I thought the same would happen to me and I projected all of that onto my wife for no reason - but now I am happily married and feel so loved and appreciated that I can’t help but model after my wife’s kindness and good character.
Edit 2: My son just came into the world a few days ago. He is happy and healthy and I am fighting with my wife about who gets to hold him more!! I can’t wait for his one month celebration, I’ll try to make up with my wife’s brothers and make sure my son has all his uncles in his life! I’ll update you all with pictures after the event!